By DeMornay Harper
Blog Content Contributor
As humans we all possess some kind of balance of masculinity and femininity. The idea that women are more encouraged to share the masculine sides of their personality is one that is common in our society. Women who like traditionally “masculine” things like football and video games are seen to be some kind of cherished unicorn among other women through the male gaze. But we’re expected not to take this too far, and actually be an intimidating boss babe because most men can’t handle all of that lady power. (However, that is a conversation for another time.)
In contrast, when men try and embrace sides of their femininity, it is hardly ever held with the same awe. On the contrary, it is considered weak and docile by the world around us. Nevertheless, I can feel the tides changing. Women no longer tolerate the man who cannot connect to his emotions and express them in a healthy manner. We encourage communication and mutual understanding.
I feel that men are feeling more comfortable being their full selves now even in their physical appearance. Men that grow out their hair to lengths that seemed “girly” 10 years ago are now seen as attractive. The man-bun is the way now, and San Marcos men wholeheartedly embrace this trend. So many men, my boyfriend included, have even surpassed the “man-bun” and have graduated to a full-on topknot. They have shattered the physical standard of what masculinity looks like.
My grandpa for as long as I can remember has sat with his legs crossed. Not with the ankle resting on my knee crossed but full-on Princess Diana, crossed at the knee. It is such a traditionally feminine pose that he was so obviously comfortable in that I took notice at a young age. He is the type of person that commands respect so it didn’t make me question his manliness. It made me question what being manly even was.
When men embrace traditionally womanly traits as their own with such confidence, it makes them a thousand times more masculine then the guy that doesn’t want to “seem gay” so he acts like some kind of unfeeling robot. No one wants the men of this world to be scared to express themselves for fear of seeming too girlish. Men are complex, multi-faceted beings that deserve the right to act as such without society trying to degrade them.
We support you, embrace you and just want to see you shine in your full truth.
Featured image by DeMornay Harper.