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In the Land of Quirky and Different

By Timia Cobb
Web Content Contributor

She jumped out of bed in a rush to get ready for school. She threw on her favorite band t-shirt, pairing it with a long sleeve shirt underneath. She completed the outfit with her vintage mom jeans that she found at a thrift store. She tucked in her shirt and put on her checkered vans.

She didn’t like girly clothes or regular pop music. She didn’t need make-up and she only liked her hair in a messy bun. She wasn’t like other girls.

For some unknown reason, a lot of women think that there’s a standard for how most women are. Because of this, every couple of years we see this huge mass of women who try to be different or not like other girls.

We saw it with scene girls around 2013, now we’re seeing it with alternative girls who think it’s quirky to only buy thrift clothes and spontaneously dye their hair.

I’m sorry to say it, but pretending to be different and trying to stand out from the rest of your gender isn’t a personality. That’s why most of these “trends” of not being like other girls are mostly for younger women who are growing up and trying to find themselves.

Although, when women do grow up, this stigma of not being the average girl is still there because we have made ourselves believe that the average girl exists. When in fact she doesn’t.

This make-believe image of the average woman is a sexist caricature made up by societal beliefs on what women should be like. Not all girls are the same, regardless of gender.

I don’t even think it possible for every person to have the same interest or personality. So, where did this idea of the average girl come from and why do women keep this image alive?

The stereotypical average woman is supposed to be neat, wears makeup, looks pretty, wears bright colors and is sweet. Women tried to rebel against this by being different, but in actuality, they started a cluster of hate for girls who are similar to what they think the average girl is.

They hate the image society has painted most women to be and try to go against this image, but this sadly develops internalized hate towards women. An example of this is VSCO girls.

VSCO girls are girls who can be described as girly or — negatively– as basic. They tend to be more feminine with bright personalities.

VSCO girls are girls who know who they are and are comfortable expressing their sense of style. However, because they were too close to the image of the average/basic girl they get made fun of.

The average woman doesn’t exist and we as women should stop labeling girls as basic because they are similar to what society expects women to be. These groups we put women into such as VSCO girls, soft girls, E-girls, alternative girls, etc. are just pitting women against each other to see who can be more different. If one girl isn’t trying to be different she will be ridiculed for it.

Girls who go out of their way to be different to remind everyone they are not like other girls and who judge girls because they aren’t trying to be different aren’t doing women any good.

Women aren’t average, they are who they are and each of them have their own personality. Once we stop pretending to be someone else and be comfortable with who we are–whether that’s different or basic– is when we can finally get rid of the horrible “I’m not like other girls” trope.

Featured image by Timia Cobb via Canva.

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