by Julianna Reel
Other Side Drive
It’s one thing to feel under pressure, unhappy, stressed, sad, or angry, but it’s another to listen to someone complain all of the time about it. Nothing is worse than a Negative Nancy, folks.
This is a list of ways to stay positive about life. You have my full permission to pull these out of your pocket the next time a friend comes to you feeling down, or maybe even use them for yourself.
- Wake up in the morning and completely disregard every single negative thought that first comes to mind.
I know this is a hard one to do, especially if the night before you fell asleep mulling over all of the important details as to why you are miserable. I get it. It’s amazing how much the morning can affect the rest of your day! Ever wake up from a dream and it influenced the whole day? Well, this is just like that. So, instead of laying in bed for 30 minutes with your eyes open, staring at the ceiling, you could watch the latest and greatest Vines to make you laugh. Or maybe text an old friend and make a point to catch up with them soon. Either way, don’t start your day sulking out of bed. Get up and get to brushing your teeth.
- Give yourself a pep talk.
I don’t necessarily mean to shout out loud “WE CAN DO IT!!” into the mirror, but I tend to find that if I just stop what I am doing and talk out loud about my problems, I feel a lot better. Talking to yourself aloud is almost like venting to a friend, except instead of hearing what you want to hear, you are speaking in a vulnerable state without worrying about what someone might think of what you have to say. Make sure to try to leave the thought resolved, if possible. Do this before you start the day.
- Dress to impress.
Imagine walking into your worst enemy, and they know that you are going through a rough patch. You wouldn’t want to look like a rough patch in front of them, now would you? So, dress up! Make yourself feel good about your appearance. A little boost of confidence does wonders for the hurting heart, and somewhat, makes you feel like you can face anything- literally.
- Simplify the problem.
Most of your problems won’t even matter in a year from now; however, chewing on it for a long time and forgetting to swallow can escalate your feelings towards the problem, causing you to look at it and speculate it in 100 different scenarios. If the problem has still been gnawing at you all day, break it down and simplify it. Try to come to the conclusion that things happen for a reason. Realize that you will become a better and wiser person because of these problems.
- Be determined to come home and do something for yourself that will further your success.
One of the best feelings is to set out to accomplish something for yourself and then complete it. Every day, I try to set a goal for myself to work on something in my spare time that I can feel good about accomplishing. Whether it be a creative project, a cleaning project, or even working on a long time goal, it is exciting to work on something. Imagine showing all of your haters what you’re capable of and how talented and smart you are. Sounds like a great confidence booster to me- just what you need.
- Enjoy the little things.
Enjoy the time you spent laughing at something small with a stranger at the cash register, or enjoy the way the sunshine shines through the trees on the meadow in the evening. Life goes on.
- Go to bed without negative thoughts on your mind.
Yes, just as hard as #1 is, it is important to do the same at the end of the day. It’s okay to think a little about your problems, as these are ways of coping and dealing with them, however, sleep is important. Sleep gives you strength to face the next day and to try to make the best out of it. Going to sleep with negative thoughts on your mind only creates a night full of tossing/turning.
Keep in mind, life goes on. There is plenty of good in the world. You just have to try your best to focus on that, rather than the negative. I know it’s not easy to distract yourself from feeling hurt, but if you can at least achieve a little laugh or a smile throughout the day, you’ve already done yourself a lot of good.