By Paige Greene
Web Content Contributor
FOMO, or the “fear of missing out,” is defined as anxiety that an interesting or exciting event is happening elsewhere. This could be that gut-feeling you get when you see all your friends together on social media but you’re not there, or the reason you always say yes to going out. If so, you are not alone because a 2013 study shows that nearly three quarters of young adults experience this.
Here are a few steps that may remedy your FOMO.
Stop obsessing over social media.
Our social media posts are an exaggeration of what we want to be, so stop comparing yourself to moments online that do not actually exist. Have you ever been in a bad mood but smiled for a photo? It’s likely that these moments you see are not exactly what you think, causing unnecessary anxiety.
The idea of FOMO has been around for ages. It is the instinct feeling that we are missing something vitally important to our being, but when social media and FOMO mix, it creates a comparison that we will never be able to live up to.
Be okay with saying “no” and “yes.”
If you do not want to, you do not have to. Learning to be okay with saying “no” and not going is one of the most important steps to getting rid of your FOMO. Taking time to “get away from it all” or decompress is very beneficial and will over time help the feeling subside.
Furthermore, if you say “no” to everything you could be the cause of your own FOMO. If you constantly say “no” and push your friends away, there may come a time where they stop inviting you. While it is very important to decompress and take some “me time,” do not forget to say “yes” too.
Rethink your friends.
If your friends genuinely leave you out, you may need to rethink who you keep by your side. Start out by expressing your feelings and if nothing changes, you may need new friends.
It is also important to focus on quality over quantity. Having loads of friends will not magically make your FOMO go away. Making sure your friends are quality and true friends will mean much more.
Plan an event or get-together.
Still feeling left out? Plan an event or get-together to make sure you are not being left out. This may subside your FOMO and give you control of the day or evening. By doing this, you are giving yourself control over your own happiness and can consciously think of the feelings of others.
Even though it certainly is not a good thing, everyone experiences FOMO. Every once in a while, put your FOMO-creating social media down and enjoy the present moment, because it is your life you are missing out on.
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