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The Complexity of Relationships and Dating

By Jernice Kelley
Web Content Contributor

It seems like every other day someone is meeting the love of their life – at least the lucky ones are. Finding a life partner or soulmate isn’t easy for everyone, let alone keeping our intimate connections intact. For some, it comes naturally, but it’s still not easy.

So, how do we go about finding a partner? Do we have to constantly rotate dating apps like Tinder, Bumble and Hinge? Do we follow the “you’ll find love when you’re not looking” approach? Even if we manage to find a partner, how do we make that connection last, and how do we know it’s real?

While online dating seems to be the route many people go, it doesn’t seem to be working. The connections that we make on these online dating apps are often very fleeting. While fun, they simply don’t last.

Of course, that is not the case for everyone, but it seems to be the more prevalent outcome. Sometimes, deciding to look up from our phones can be the best decision we ever make.

Not everyone in the world is connected to the internet. Going out to places filled with people who like the same things as us and starting a conversation with someone new also expands the possibility of finding a partner.

The more people you make the effort to meet, the higher the chances of finding a romantic interest.

Some say the hardest part about dating is simply finding something lasting and meaningful. To others, the hard part is making sure that you and your partner both feel respected, heard, and always loved. While that may sound like something that should not be hard to do when you are with someone you love, it’s important to remember that humans and relationships can be complex. That is where communication comes in.

It’s no secret that communication, or lack thereof, can make or break any relationship no matter how long you have been with your partner. However, simply talking about your issues is not enough. Communication without understanding will not ease or resolve tensions. Understanding, empathy, and vulnerability with your partner become very important and necessary.

Sometimes, we are just not meant to be with the person we think we are. Many times, we think it’s love at first sight and we often look for a quick romance that sweeps us off our feet. It feels amazing to have that, but when we have things too soon, it is disheartening when that suddenly fades.

When that happens, it could be a consequence of love bombing. Love bombing is a narcissist’s secret weapon, and we should be careful and recognize the signs.

Navigating dating and relationships are hard enough, but it is not impossible. Sometimes, we fall in love with the wrong people. When things go wrong, everything will confuse us, and we start to believe that true love does not exist. That is not true; It is out there, and it will come to us.

We often accept the love we think we deserve, and we deserve unconditional love.

Featured image by Jernice Kelley.

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