The Importance Of Being Alone

By Shaeleigh Schmidt
Blog Content Contributor

There are many points in our lives where we feel pressured to jump into a relationship, even if it’s not necessarily what we want or need.

When you login to Facebook and see another one of your high school friends got engaged.

That’s great for them, but it doesn’t mean that you should feel like you’re behind. Maybe you’re supposed to meet your person after graduation, or maybe you’re supposed to go through a certain life experience before you meet the one. Trust the process, and don’t jump into anything just because you see people around you moving a little faster in that aspect of life than you. Everyone has a different timeline for their life.

You feel lonely.

It can be hard to be alone sometimes, especially if you’re adjusting from being in a relationship and having a person there for you constantly. After a breakup it can be easy to sit around and reminisce on the good times and forget about
the bad times, but let’s face it- there were bad times (otherwise the breakup wouldn’t have happened).

Believe it or not, there are perks to being alone. You have more time to yourself, and you can learn a lot about yourself. Studies show that a successful relationship can’t form until you not only know yourself, but also love yourself. When you’re in a relationship you can be very caught up in your significant other, and maybe even forget to take time for yourself. Being alone can be a blessing in disguise.

“Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, and sleep alone. In the midst of this you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will figure out what inspires you, you will curate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity, and when you do meet the person who makes your cells dance, you will be sure of it, because you are sure of yourself,” said Bianca Sparacino, poet.

Featured image by Shaeleigh Schmidt