By Kimberly Garcia
Blog Content Contributor
I have had a total of three best friends; two in elementary school and the one I have now. Since the end of my relationship with my second best friend almost nine years ago, I was always hesitant to have another because I felt like it was almost a curse to do so. I thought that if I established someone as my best confidant, then the friendship was sure to end.
I have known my best friend since I was 11. We always got along, but I didn’t credit him with that title until about a year ago. Although it took eight years to get to that point, I think that his constant support and helpful criticism has earned him the spot of being my best friend. He is someone that I can pitch the craziest ideas to and he always works it out with me to ensure that my idea is achievable. I know that I can go to him to get an honest opinion because if he doesn’t think that it is a realistic goal, he’ll tell me and will have valid reasons to his argument. In comparison to my other best friends, I would say that he stands above the rest because of his ability to be supportive and honest. It may be because I’m older that I think this way or it might be because he’s just better (I know he would choose the latter).
I think he is the best, best friend I’ve had because of the variety that our friendship has. Anytime we hang out, conversations vary between controversial social issues and who we think should perform at the next Victoria Secret Fashion Show. We can find fun in walking around city or wondering the aisles of Target. Granted sometimes we do clash on what we prefer or would like to do, but we compromise to ensure that we both (for the most part) get what we want.
I also credit the success of our friendship to the transparency we have with one another. If there is a concern, we don’t sugarcoat our opinions about the problem. Being honest ensures that we make an informed decision about the conundrum that we have. I think being honest about what we believe is important because we don’t have to hold back. We allow each other to be our truest selves which can be difficult to find in friendships. Open mindedness is important to our friendship because is sets the tone of being able to receive an honest criticism that we can use to decide the outcome of a difficult task.
I think this video is a good explanation of what my best friend provides for me. Sometimes, others may have several people that fill each aspect of friendship, but my best friend has them all.
I’m glad I have someone like him in my life. A best friend is someone that you can trust with your deepest secrets and they can lift you up on your darkest days. It’s rare to find someone that is willing to be there for you because many people aren’t willing to invest in such an idea, but I’m glad I found a person whose can take on the role of being my best friend.
Featured image by Asia Daggs.