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Leave Introverts Be

By Emily Garza
Web Content Contributor

We know the different kind of -verts: introvert, extravert and ambivert. We are one of the three -verts. I personally am an introvert, so I prefer to be alone than to be with a group of people. My social battery recharges when I am alone, and it drains when I am surrounded with people for a prolonged period of time.

I just want to start off by saying that I love being alone! If I don’t spend the alone time I need to be able to recharge, I get mentally and physically tired. However, this isn’t the case for all introverts. Some might need more or less alone time than I do. Alone time is just something us introvert need.

On the contrast, extroverts prefer to be surrounded by groups of people. Being alone is what drains their social battery, while hanging out with people charges it up. Lastly, ambiverts are a combination of both introvert and extrovert. They like being alone and surrounded by a group of people.

As an introvert, I can get irritated by some extroverts, but I just let them be. That is the type of person they are, and I am not going to try to change that. However, when I go online, it seems like people want to change or tweak the way introverts are.

list of YouTube videos about introverts and how they can socialize better
List of YouTube videos recommending introverts how to socialize with other people. Screenshot via YouTube by Emily Garza.

There are always some kind of tips and tricks to “help” us introverts to be more social. What we prefer is to have alone time to ourselves, not try to force ourselves to socialize when there is no need to. Besides, we already have the social skills to socialize. If you think we don’t, you’re probably confusing introversion with social anxiety, which all the -verts can have. It is just a choice not to socialize.

Adding on to that, don’t try to force us to go into any social gathering we don’t want to attend. It makes the experience less enjoyable if we do actually attend. We would just be thinking about how much more enjoyable it would be if we were at home.

It’s even worse if you don’t force us to come out, but make a comment about us seeming lame because we want to stay at home. It’s not that we are lame, we just have different preferences from you. You prefer to socialize with other people, while we like to socialize with our T.V.

Last thing stop asking us why we are so quiet. We never ask why you talk so much.

Featured image by Emily Garza.

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